Saturday, 25 September 2010

Ten Cognitive (Thinking) Traps


1     All or nothing thinking:
You see things in black & white categories & there are no shades of grey. If a situation is less than perfect you see it as a total failure.

2.       Overgeneralization:
Here, one unfortunate event leads to the assumption that this will happen every time, but remember there is no justification for seeing one instance as proving the rule. Recognised by thinking involving the words always or never.

3.       Mental Filter:
You pick out a single negative detail & dwell on it exclusively. One word of critics eradicates all the praise you have received.

4.       Disqualifying the positive:
You reject the positive experiences by insisting they don’t count, maybe they are a fluke. If you do a good job, you tell yourself it was easy, or anyone could have done it.

5.       Jumping to conclusions:
You interpret things negatively when there are no facts to support your conclusion. Two common variations are mind-reading (you arbitrarily assume that someone is reacting negatively to you), & fortune telling (You predict that things will turn out badly).

6.       Catastrophising :
You exaggerate the importance of your own problems & shortcomings to disaster proportions – “I made a mistake, how awful; I can never show myself here again.” Do you feel this way about other people when you see them make a mistake?

7.       Emotional Reasoning:
You take your feelings as facts, assuming your negative emotions reflect the way things really are, as in “I feel guilty, so I must be a rotten person”, or “I feel anxious, so there must be some real danger.”

8.       Should statements:
Based upon out assumptions, you think you should be perfect all the time, should never make a fuss or never get angry. You may assume others should always be able to anticipate your needs, or this is proof they don’t care for you.

9.       Labelling:
An extreme form of all or nothing thinking, you label yourself as a ‘useless person’ on the basis of one mistake. It makes as much sense labelling yourself a joiner, because you put up a shelf.

10.   Personalisation & blame:
You hold yourself personally responsible for events that aren’t entirely under your control, & which may involve others’ actions or decisions making too.

Thursday, 16 September 2010

"Not Perfect"




This is my Earth
And I live in it
It's one third dirt
And two thirds water
And it rotates and revolves through space
At rather an impressive pace
And never even messes up my hair
And here's the really weird thing
The force created by its spin
Is the force that stops the chaos flooding in

This is my Earth
And it's fine
It's where I spend the vast majority of my time
It's not perfect
But it's mine
It's not perfect

This is my house
And I live in it
It's made of cracks
And photographs
We rent it off a guy who bought it from a guy
Who bought it from a guy
Whose grandad left it to him
And the weirdest thing is that this house
Has locks to keep the baddies out
But they're mostly used to lock ourselves in

This is my house
And it's fine
It's where I spend the vast majority of my time
It's not perfect
But it's mine
It's not perfect

This is my body
And I live in it
It's x
And x months old
It's changed a lot since it was new
It's done stuff it wasn't built to do
I often try to fill it up with wine
And the weirdest thing about it is
I spend so much time hating it
But it never says a bad word about me

This is my body
And it's fine
It's where I spend the vast majority of my time
It's not perfect
But it's mine
It's not perfect

This is my brain
And I live in it
It's made of love
And bad song lyrics
It's tucked away behind my eyes
Where all my fucked up thoughts can hide
Cos God forbid I hurt somebody
And the weird thing about my mind
Is that every answer that you find
Is the basis of a brand new cliche

This is my brain
And it's fine
It's where I spend the vast majority of my time
It's not perfect
But it's mine
It's not perfect
I'm not quite sure I've worked out how to work it
It's not perfect
But it's mine

Rules Of Being Human

Rules of Being Human by Dan Millman 

  • When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual. These guidelines help make life work better!
  • You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but make the best of it because it’s going to be with you for the rest of your life. 
  • You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full time informal school called life on planet Earth. Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher 
  • There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. ‘Failures’ are as much a part of the process as ‘Successes’ 
  • A lesson is repeated until it is learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it, then you go to the next lesson. 
  • If you don’t learn easy lessons they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state; pain is how your subconscious gets your attention. First it whispers, then it Yells. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. 
  • You will know you have learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice, practice, practice, practice. Remember a little of Something is better than a lot of Nothing. 
  • ‘THERE’ is no better than ‘HERE’. When your ‘THERE’ becomes ‘HERE’, you simply obtain another ‘THERE’ that looks better than ‘HERE’
  • Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.
  • Your life is up to you. Spirit provides the canvas you do the painting. There are three kinds of people; those who make things happen, those who watch what happens, and those who wonder what happened. Take charge of your life - or someone else will. 
  • You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences and people you attract, therefore only the foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. 
  • There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences and responsibilities. Corollary Law: no one gets away with anything; everything has a value – and a price; you pay now, or you pay later. 
  • Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the laws of spirit are written. You must know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do this is look, listen and trust.
  • You will tend to forget all this. That’s why it’s good to remind one another.

Friday, 14 May 2010

Comfort Bag Against Panic Attacks

Yet something else I found at JTF (Journey Towards Freedom). It's such a wealth of info & ideas!
I carry a large enough bag, so I can fit a smaller one with a few things in it, into it.I don't suffer from panic attacks anymore (thank god!) but I could do with something to distract my mind when I'm feeling low &/or stressed.....


How do you prepare yourself for panic attacks while away from home? Reach into your comfort bag for security, distraction or relaxation. Prepare yourself for anxiety and panic attacks by taking along comfort in a bag.
Difficulty: Easy
Time Required:Varies
Here's How:

  1. Choose a bag.
    Decide what kind of bag is appropriate for your needs. If you drive a lot, you can take more in the car. If you carry a purse, maybe a large one is in order. A backpack is an option for anyone.
  2. Brainstorm.
    Now it's time to brainstorm. Sit down with pen and paper, and write down anything that comes to mind that has helped relieve your anxiety in the past. Add to it anything that you'd like to try.
  3. Pick the portable items from your list.
    After your list is complete, decide what is portable and put together your comfort bag.

    Below are a number of suggestions to help you complete your list.
  4. Relaxation
    • Index cards with relaxation and breathing exercises
    • Lavender oil
    • Hand cream (for hand massage)
    • Music and portable player
    • Relaxation tapes
    • Herbal tea
  5. Comfort
    • Photos
    • Cards/letters from loved ones
    • Teddy bear
    • Religious or spiritual items
    • Index cards with poems, quotes and calming reminders
  6. Stimulation
    • Rubber bands (can put on your wrist)
    • Mints or tart candy
    • Cold water
    • Mentholated cream (to smell)
    • Upbeat music
  7. Distraction
    • Puzzle books
    • Magazines
    • Portable computer games
    • Journal
    • Small children's toys
    • Coloring books
    • Books on tape
    • Pens, pencils, colored pencils, crayons
  8. Emergencies
    • Cell phone
    • Extra clothes (including something warm)
    • Blanket
    • Extra medication
    • Small phonebook with all important numbers
    • Change for phone
    • Money
    • Toilet paper and Kleenex
    • Maps
Tips:
  1. Have a list people you can call if you're stuck somewhere. They would be people who could come get you or talk to you until you feel calm again (make sure they've agreed ahead of time).
  2. Forgetfulness is a common symptom during anxiety and panic. When you put together lists, like phone numbers, be sure to include even the most obvious (such as your mom) because you may forget the most obvious when you're anxious.
  3. Remember that anxiety can make easy tasks more difficult, so be sure to bring distractions for an anxious mind (i.e., maybe a children's puzzle book rather than an adult's).
  4. Don't be embarrassed about bringing what soothes you. If bringing that childhood teddy bear will help you take a few more recovery steps, then it's worth it!

Sunday, 14 March 2010

Photoshop

I've been playing around with photoshop again, what do you think?

The Mouse's Tale
The Spider Queen.
She hides within the woods with only the spiders as companionship.
Her heart, long since broken, is held together by the cobwebs of her arachnid friends.
She will lure the fool hearty into her web only to give their hand to death.
Love can not only bring joy, but also sorrow......

The moral? Never play with a womans heart!

Star Princess
The little princess watches over you as you sleep, humming lullaby's to help you sleep.
Sprinkling star dust into your eyes to create all your most magical dreams.....

Saturday, 13 March 2010

Bye Titch.


Titch was our family cat.
She was found along with her mother & other brothers & sisters in Greenock Prison.
Because she was the runt of the litter she was titchy, hence her name!
We adopted her at about 6months old & she stayed with us until she had to be put down on Friday at the grand old age of 19yrs!
I had a lot of emotional problems growing up (Depression) & used to shout at her a lot, but she would always come for a cuddle & say hello no matter how Depressed I was. She never held my moody swings against me (unlike a lot of people).
I think she knew I had issues & did her best to help. She did!
See you on the other side Titchy <3



The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...



Monday, 8 March 2010

Cat Declawing

Declawing of cats is banned within the EU for a reason! It's animal cruelty.
I've heard a few people (so far it's only been Americans where it is not an offence) say that it's a reasonable way to prevent scratches from their cat either on themselves or furniture. One word. Ignorance.
If you are considering of declawing your feline friend or don't see way the procedure should have a worldwide ban, please take a little time & read....


1-Declawing is NOT just a trimming of nails.
As seen below, to properly declaw a cats paws the "vet" needs to amputate at the first knuckle of the paw. Imagine having no finger tips! Having TEN amputations at the same time. The pain is excruciating for the cat, which can last for months until the nerve endings heal over.



If it's not done properly the claws can painfully regrow YEARS after the surgery. You won't know until it's too late.

2 -Declawing can lead to litter box problems as they tend to feel the pain as they are healing while digging in their tray. The cat may refuse point blank to ever use a tray again.

3 - It can alter their gait & therefore cause serious arthritis in their joint, particularly in their hips.
Look at a cat as it walks, it's like a ballerina on point. Removal of their claws changes how they walk.

4 - It can lead to biting issues. Imagine having an itch, how would you scratch it? If you were being attacked how would you defend your self if your hands are not free?
With your mouth! Cats are just the same.
I know when my cat has had enough brushing because he'll give me a quick swipe. Nothing that causes blood or pain, but enough to make me stop. If he hadn't got his claws how would he do this?

5 - Cats use their claws to help them stretch their leg & back muscles. They dig their claws into the ground, carpet etc & use the resistance. Remember its the claws that hold onto things, they don't have the thumbs to be able to grasp hold of something like us. Think of crampons on the feet of mountaineers.

6 - Defense! Yes they will be able to bite an attacker but they will be seriously disadvantaged without their claws to defend themselves.
Cats will scratch before biting. You may say "my cat is an indoor cat", but even indoor cats can escape, or be attacked in their home. You may say I'm being paranoid, but do you leave your door & windows open while you sleep?
Just because they are inside it does not mean they will not need to defend themselves.

7 - They mark territory. Cats will tend to scratch at the same place. Think of "tagging". It's a "this is my yard" sort of thing. Their paws contain scent glands so they are actually scenting as they claw.
My cat claws the corner of a fence outside & the same patch of carpet in my living room, I've never seen him anywhere else. He may do, but what I'm trying to show is the routine & predictability that cats have.
You can (if you are patient enough) train a cat to only scratch in one place, such as a scratch pole if it's an indoor cat.

8 - Scratching makes cats feel good. Plain & simple.

9 - Cats use their claws for grooming! How else do you expect them to get rid of that annoying prey bone from between their teeth, or annoying seed/bug from their coat?

10 - To catch prey. Yes, I know it's horrid, but it's a cats nature to hunt. A lot of cats will hunt out of pleasure. Why do you think they love chasing something on a string or a laser pointer? Because it's a form of hunting!
Ginge is very spoiled & never goes hungry but now & again will arrive at the door with a half dead mouse or bird.
If you ever watch a cat eat it's prey you will see it gut the creature with it's back claws, if it's declawed it will be unable to do this. If for some terrible reason you cannot fed your cat (maybe your taken into hospital, your cat gets lost etc) how do you expect them to eat?

11 - Behavioural problems. There are a lot of declawed cats in shelters in countries where it is not illegal because the cats develop character & behavioural problems after the procedure. From what I've read about this the poor cats develop PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), something that even use humans struggle to deal with!

So you still thinking of delcawing your cat?
Of course there are always exceptions & I'm sure there are a few cats that have had a happy life declawed, but do you really want to take the risk?

If you need more persuading check out these sites for even more info.

DECLAWING (the very last link on the linked page has photos that are distressing, brace yourself)
CAT SCRATCHING scroll down for some alternatives to delclawing!


If you want to trim your cats claws the below image might help...
Or check out this snazy little covers at SOFT PAWS. They must have the entire rainbow in colours!


Please just think about your cat before declawing.

Saturday, 27 February 2010

A Metamorphosis of Carbon


“We are literally the ashes of long dead stars.” Scientists believe that the Solar System was formed when a cloud of gas and dust in space, made up of elements formed deep within stars, started to collapse, forming a solar nebula. This began to spin as it collapsed, eventually giving birth over billions of years to the Solar System as we know it today. Apart from hydrogen and helium, formed just after the Big Bang, most of the elements we come into contact with have been made in the stars. Planet Earth and all of its life forms are made of elements formed billions of years ago deep within the cores of stars now long dead.( ©2007-2010 The University of Waikato)

Friday, 26 February 2010

Made To Measure





Made To Measure _ My Ruin

I was born like this with hips like this
Lips like this and wrists like this
legs like this and arms like this
a fist like this to hit you with, now
you're like school on Sunday
You ain't got no class
You keep running your mouth but...
You can kiss my ass!

Not made to measure baby
One size does not fit all
I will not be the one
You make to take the fall
[repeat]

I got the curves to fear, the words to feel
When I scream I've heard them say
I've got the voice to heal
You don't need to be sorry
you don't need to be saved
You just need to be proud of the body that God gave

Not made to measure baby
One size does not fit all
I will not be the one
You make to take the fall
[repeat]

listen to me say...yeah

I'm so fat I'm fucked up
I'm so skinny I'm sick
I'm tired of the magazines
Talking that bullshit!
I'm not fat, you're fucked up
I'm not skinny, you're sick
I'm just tired of the critics who keep talking that bullshit

Yeah!

I was born like this with eyes like this
Teeth like this and thighs like this
A face like this, a waist like this
and when I die...I'll die like this...now
You're like school on Sunday
You ain't got no class
You keep running your mouth but
I just might kick some ass!

Not made to measure baby
One size does not fit all
I will not be the one
You make to take the fall
[repeat]

Let me hear you say YEAH!
You're so fat you're fucked up
You're so skinny you're sick
You're so tired of the magazines
Talking that bullshit!
You're not fat or fucked up
You're not skinny or sick
You're just tired of the critics who keep talking that bullshit

NOW WHAT?-NOW WHAT?-NOW WHAT? What you gonna say next time you SEE US?
NOW WHAT?-NOW WHAT?-NOW WHAT? What you gonna say next time you SEE ME?